Comments on: The Under-Appreciation of God in Our Marriage (Part 2) http://blog.lifelinecommunity.com/2009/05/the-under-appreciation-of-god-in-our-marriage-part-2/ Building lives that make God look great Sun, 13 Jun 2010 05:58:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Myke Shawhan http://blog.lifelinecommunity.com/2009/05/the-under-appreciation-of-god-in-our-marriage-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-598 Myke Shawhan Tue, 12 May 2009 03:18:04 +0000 http://blog.lifelinecommunity.com/?p=115#comment-598 “It is more important that your children know that you love your spouse than it is that they know you love them.” I think at first glance the statement causes some to misunderstand the point. It is not “Either / Or”. The statement presupposes that you are already loving your kids to some extent. The statement, more fully understood, leads to a better understanding of the point: some people try to love their kids while neglecting the spouse. The way to truly love your kids is to be an example to them (instead of “do as I say, not as I do”). So the man who exemplifies love of his wife to the kids teaches them how to properly love. The man who shows favor to his kids at the expense of his wife teaches them how to disdain and marginalize. “It is more important that your children know that you love your spouse than it is that they know you love them.”

I think at first glance the statement causes some to misunderstand the point. It is not “Either / Or”. The statement presupposes that you are already loving your kids to some extent. The statement, more fully understood, leads to a better understanding of the point: some people try to love their kids while neglecting the spouse. The way to truly love your kids is to be an example to them (instead of “do as I say, not as I do”). So the man who exemplifies love of his wife to the kids teaches them how to properly love. The man who shows favor to his kids at the expense of his wife teaches them how to disdain and marginalize.

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